11.04.2004

Medical Tests & Evaluations for Child

Recommended Medical Tests and Evaluations
Make sure the child's medical record satisfactorily records the following information. If anything is untested, inconclusive or questionable, the test should be repeated when you bring your chil(ren) home.

- Antibody titers for children over one year of age who have a credible vaccine record from the country of origin: - diphtheria antibodies- tetanus antibodies- polio neutralizing antibodies for type 1, 2, 3- chicken pox antibodies- measles, mumps, rubella (depends on the country and reliability of these vaccines)
- HIV-1,2 ELISA
- Hepatitis B serology (Hep B surface antibody, Hep B surface antigen, Hep B core antibody total)
- Hep C EIA
- Hep A total with reflex to IgM in case of acute infection
- Syphilis serology (RPR, FTA-ABS)
- Lead Level (venous)
- Complete Blood count with differential and platelets
- Hemoglobin electrophoresis
- Thyroid screen- TSH- Free T4- Total T4
- Rickets screen- Alkaline phosphatase- Calcium- Phosphorus
- Liver Enzymes- ALT- AST
- Kidney Function tests- BUN- Cr
- Hearing evaluation for all children adopted from abroad
- Vision screening by a board certified pediatric ophthalmologist for all children adopted from abroad (unknown birth history and possible prematurity).
- Dental visit with a pediatric dentist should be done by 18 months of age (poor nutrition, rickets, exposure to sugar in the bottle with bottle propping)
- TB skin test (TST) on arrival and again 6 months from the time of arrival (If the BCG site is not healed wait until it is healed and if more than a few months is needed for healing, consider having a chest x-ray; then do the TST when the BCG scar is completely healed.
- Consider repeating HIV, Hep B, C 6 months after adoption (lengthy incubation periods and exposure just at the time of departure).
- Full developmental assessment immediately after adoption and every few months to determine the need for Early Intervention.


This information was found at www.orphandoctor.com

10.29.2004

NAC (National Adoption Center)

Learn what to expect when you have your appointment at the NAC! You can read posts all over various forums about how difficult the Director is, but there is a reason why.

The main thing we Americans seem to forget is that Ukraine does not work according to our whims; it will not bend to our wishes and will actually resist our demands. The NAC Director is officially the law! When you cross her, she will give you referal after referal of sick children only and will send you on a wild goose chase in order to exasperate you until you "get her point." This is important for us to realize because we must abide by their rules and customs. We are privileged to be allowed to adopt from their country and should be respectful at all times. A good rule of thumb is to "Remember who is in charge. Remember, or be reminded!"

As long as we are not forceful, arrogant, confrontational or inflexible, your experience should be fine!


10.25.2004

Regions-- Easiest & Most Difficult

There several different regions in Ukraine. Some are reportedly more difficult to adopt from because they have reputations of never waiving the 30 day wait and are slower in the processing of the paperwork. Though I don't know that I could turn down a referal just because the child is in a harder region to work with. Your facilitator should be more informed than I could ever be, so for now, I am just going to focus on the "easiest" regions.

I will indicate (*) which regions I've heard have almost no detectable after-effects from Chernobyl. Apparently when the incident happened, the winds were blowing in a north-westerly direction so certain regions bore the brunt of it while others were nearly unaffected. (Regions which show a high incidence of cancers and leukemia since Chernobyl are: Rovno/Rivno, Moldova and Belarus.)

1st section is the best; 2nd section is moderate; 3rd section is just "okay" as far as adoption processing and bureaucratic issues:

*Donetsk (far from Kyiv)
Lviv
Kharkiv (economically well-off in comparison because it used to be the capitol)
____
*Odessa
*Simferopol (aka Crimnea) (far)
Chernihiv (close to Kyiv)
Zaporizhzhya
Mykolayiv
Zhytomyr (close)
_____
Chernivstsi
Ivano-Frankivsk
Kherson
Poltava
Sumy
Uzhgorod
*Kyiv
Cherkasy
Kirovograd
*Denepropetrovsk
Rivne
Khmelnytsky
Ternopil
*Lugansk
_____

All regions I have not included have reputations of being problematic. I certainly would not suggest omitting these regions because those children don't deserve to be overlooked. If there is a child that meets our criteria in one of these unlisted regions, I guess we'll just have to be prepared for difficulties. (I'd love to hear from anyone who has had a decent/good experience in any of the unlisted regions.) These regions are listed here based only on what I've heard about them, on the frequency of adoption, and from other compiled lists I've come across. (That is my attempt at a disclaimer since I am not an expert, just a parent trying to be fully informed.)

http://travel.kyiv.org/map/

10.22.2004

Link to U.S. State Dept.

A Must Read: the United States State Department website

For everything needed to know-- how to follow all the expected guidelines, where and how to download necessary forms, Ukrainian adoption laws, paperwork for Dossier and official contact information:

http://travel.state.gov/family/adoption_ukraine.html

10.21.2004

Common Medical Issues in Orphans

When you travel to find your child, the referal will come with a "medical statement" about the child. I've heard a lot about the confusion of understanding the medical documents, so start preparing yourself.
I found that in Ukraine there are "frequently seen diagnoses" on the majority of kids' medical records. Understanding what these mean is key in anticipating the health of the child before we accept the referal. Please check these out for yourself. Good websites are
www.orphandoctor.com and www.russianadoption.org .

The results are often compromised for several reasons. Lab results are often unreliable, and I have not found a good reason why this is or how true this is. When cranial sonograms are done, the results are often over-interpreted. When physicians evaluate the infants/children, over-diagnosis is common. It has been said that the reason this occurs is so that orphanages can receive additional funding for the care of a special needs child. Yet, in several sites I have read that this is simply not true (any longer). There are several reasons over-diagnosis can happen. Unfortunately, there are sometimes not enough facts, so a diagnosis is made on the likely probabilty. For instance, congenital herpes is sometimes presumed because there is a supposed epidemic of syphilis in EE, though it is actually quite rare for a child to carry it. Therefore, "syphilis exposure" can end up being translated as "congenital syphilis." Inaccurate or poor translation of medical records is another reason diagnoses are sometimes incorrect. Errors in metric conversion also pose problems in how results are interpreted on a medical record. Physicians' determinations may be erring on the side of caution and prospective parents can get assistance in ruling out a diagnosis. But, under-diagnosis is definitely more serious and it is wise for us to be as well-informed as possible. It is absolutely essential to call the orphange director and ask for her personal assessment of the child's development and behavior.
Listed below are the most common medical diagnoses and basic definitions of what they are (based only on my research):

PERINATAL ENCEPHALOPATHY-- also applied to Pyramidal Syndrome, Pyramidal Insufficiency, Vegetative
Dystonia, Spastic Tetraparesis, Motion Disorder, perinatal insult to central nervous system, trauma to spine,
and other neurological diagnoses. **95% of kids are given this diagnosis, but it is most often a meaningless
diagnosis and there is usually no medical evidence to support it. This is usually diagnosed in the maternity home
especially when there is no information on family and prenatal history. Also, "fussy" babies are often given this
diagnosis based on observable things such as a quivering chin when crying. Eastern European treatment for this
"condition" is usually injections of vitamins. The injections themselves pose more of a risk than this supposed
Perinatal Encephalopathy, because the use of needles increases the chances of contracting Hep C and HIV.

HIP DYSPLASIA-- this condition is assigned to a child when there is any reason to suspect a problem with a hip joint.
There is little basis for this diagnosis and usually no tests are administered to confirm. Most often, if there is a
problem, it turns out to be a dislocated hip.

CONGENITAL SYPHILIS-- (or any other number of STDs). If maternal history is unknown, treatment
is with penicillin and follow-up care is adequet. Despite a rumored epidemic of syphilis, children are
rarely, if ever, infected.

MICROCEPHALY-- There is lots of concern about this condition. This diagnosis means the head circumference (OFC)
is small. This is a serious matter because it almost always implies mental retardation. However, children in
orphanages commonly do have smaller heads due to malnutrition. There has been found to be a cause and effect
relationship between small head circumference and being institutionalized. The good news: head growth almost
always increases after adoption!


In reality, our hope for a healthy child cannot be defined by America's standard of what healthy is. A healthy orphan will have a number of problems, but the good news is that they are easily treated or overcome once they are re-nourished. Bringing an orphan home where he will have good emotional and physical care quickly corrects many of the health issues. The following ailments are not at all unusual in an institutionalized child.

MALNUTRITION-- this condition is rampant in orphanages because there is an absence of crucial elements such as
zinc, iron, vitamins. It can cause children to be apathetic, have excessive bouts of crying, and language and
developmental delays. Malnutrition is easily overcome and a child should fully recover.

PARASITES-- in Eastern European countries there is a high risk for the parasites Giardia Lamblia, Dientamoeba
Fragilis, Campylobacter, Shigella and Salmonella. Some physicians in U.S. prefer not to treat parasites in children, but the presence of parasites does interfere with renourishment.

RICKETS-- a very common condition caused by vitamin D and calcium deficiency. It causes low muscle tone, bowing of legs, and a square-shaped head. Usually is resolved quickly, but in some cases, physical therapy may be necessary. The symptoms of Rickets sometimes ends up being misdiagnosed as Cerebral Palsy or other degenerative muscle diseases. (Ask lots of questions if CP is found on the child's medical record; it may only be Rickets.)

SELF-STIMULATORY BEHAVIORS-- when the child is observed, these behaviors can appear to be symptoms of "Attachment Disorder." These self-stimulatory behaviors ( such as head-banging, rocking, etc.) are very common among orphans since their environment is depressing, boring, and lonely.

DEVELOPMENTAL DELAYS-- it is almost a given that orphans will have some forms of delay, either physical, mental, or emotional. Expect it. However, after adoption, recovery is an incredible process that happens right before your eyes! Language delays are the most frequently seen delay, and this problem could continue if no effort is made in bridging the language barrier. If language delay continues and is not treated, the child will "act out" and will have hard to manage behavioral issues.

HEPATITIS B-- some children are carriers of this but you can live normally with it.

We have been advised to take the following health issues under very serious consideration and be sure to be fully satisfied with the reported test results.

TB
HIV
HEPATITIS C (carrier or diagnosed positive?)
FETAL ALCOHOL SYNDROME (FAS)
FETAL ALCOHOL EFFECT (FAE)

10.20.2004

How Personality is Affected by Met & Unmet Needs

Prepare how to parent your new adopted child. The first step is understanding the conditions in an orphange and how that impacts the children. Secondly, learning about the basic human needs we all have helps us realize where our child will probably be lacking. Life in an orphanage is very depressing, lonely (being just a body in a crowd), non-stimulating, and emotionally empty.

Based on Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs is the premise that our unsatisfied needs will continually have the greatest influence on our personality, behavior and actions. When we fail to have a certain level of needs met, our emotional development is stunted. We are innately protective of our self and whether we are aware of it or not, we are primarily motivated by our needs. Following is my understanding of these needs, and I try to apply it to children.

1st Need: BODY NEEDS-- these are very basic yet extremely strong needs. Without these needs met, there is a failure to thrive; a person could literally die. These needs include water, air, food, sleep and touch.
As Lois pointed out, a lot of orphans are already deprived of these necessities. Food is sparce, dehydration is
common (since children are allowed very little fluids a day), and being held and touched enough is rare. When
these needs go unmet, a person experiences irritation, discomfort and even physical pain. In such a state of
being, sleep is restless or impossible. If this is the reality for our little boy, then his emotional growth has
become stagnant at this first level. He is aware of his hunger, his thirst, and his physical detachment. For us
as his new family, our first focus will be on meeting these basic needs and helping him learn that these needs
will always be met. Once he begins to believe that assurance, he will be able to progress emotionally and
obviously physically as well. We are going to hold him constantly, cuddle, tickle, and Lois even suggested that
we have him sleep with us (that's right up our alley!).

2nd Need: SECURITY-- in children, this is an especially great need. Their well-being largely depends on their feeling protected and safe. A stable family life, regular routines, familiar and consistently involved people and
emotionally strong parents is essential. Kids deeply need a solid and unchanging home life in such a big and
scary and chaotic world.

3rd Need: LOVE-- people need to experience what love is, to see what it is capable of and that it is unconditional. Love offers belonging (in a family), it shows affection, and it delights in the child. The child will feel what it is like to
be fully accepted for who he is! "Love is patient, love is kind. ...It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily
angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ...It always protects, ... always perseveres. Love never fails."
1 Cor. 13:4-8

4th Need: ESTEEM-- without this, a child feels worthless, a Nobody. In order to become ambitious and maintain
healthy relationships, we need to have our own self-respect. Self-esteem is the result of accomplishment. A
child will need opportunities to develop their individual talents, to make mistakes without seeing themselves
as failures, and to be recognized for their effort and accomplishments. Attention from others is like a child's
reflection of himself; how he is regarded is how he will see himself. Praise, eye-contact, smiles, and patience
with his attempts are imperative to his self-esteem.

5th Need: SELF-ACTUALIZATION-- (is this a psycho-babble word?!) This means that once all the previous needs are satisfied, a person will have the desire to reach his full potential. He will want to find his own purpose in life.
He will take on hobbies and interests that he enjoys because he knows he is capable of doing anything. This is
on-going personal growth. This is a parent's goal for her children!

These are the needs that Maslow has identified in all people. You don't have to agree, but you can see the point: our personality is shaped by the conditions we are raised in. I'd like to add that another need not to be neglected is our spiritual need. We want to know we are not an accident, that we were created for a reason, that God loves us because He already knows us intimately. If we are just an accident, then there is simply no purpose for us to even try to have our needs met. If we can introduce our little children to their Creator, they will feel assured that God will always make provision for their physical needs; their sense of security will come from knowing that their little life is always in the palm of God's hand; that they were planned and loved from the very beginning; their life belongs to God; their identity is in knowing that God sees them as precious, not how the world sees them; and that God had a purpose for their life and He will enable them to attain it.

10.17.2004

Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome

An article to read which was originally published in "Today's Parent", March 2003, written by Shelly Page, titled: "The Hidden Baby Blues"... The article says that many mothers who go through an adoption are at risk for developing depression after the new child comes home. In comparison to Post-Partum Depression, the frequency of depression among adoptive mothers brings into question that this "after-baby" depression is not necessarily only the result of hormones. I am totally paraphrasing, but you get the idea.

Unfortunately, adoptive mothers who suffer from Post-Adoption Depression Disorder do not necessarily feel their depression is justifiable. On the contrary, they should be elated because they finally got what they wanted. But nonetheless, a huge life transition has just occurred. Yes, adoptive parents are often prepped by their agencies to expect the worst-case scenarios like discovering your child is sick or developmentally delayed, the obstacles that can arise during the travel, and difficulties with your child adapting or bonding etc.. In the midst of pursuing your child, you aren't actually dealing with the reality of him/her yet. Once the process is complete and your child is home, adoptive parents are confronted with the reality of raising this child versus the child that has been in their hope-filled imaginations.

The term "Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome" was coined by June Bond in 1995, and this depression is not exclusive to parents of adopted infants. Even with children of any age, there are serious adjustments to be made, and overcoming language barriers, the unknown affects of pre-adoption experiences, malnutrition, etc. can be a heavy load even for well-prepared parents.

Cconsider all that you will go through emotionally. Using the example of the holidays: we hustle around excitedly preparing for family get-togethers, planning the perfect meals, choosing the best gifts, making plans and then... it is January 2nd, and it is all over. It was all achieved and then there is a letdown. Really, there is no sigh of relief because life has to now incorporate all the change. You built up to this one event, lived every day to see the end result and then go on with life.

There is a "honeymoon period" between parents and child. It can last around six months until the child begins to test your commitment to him/her. This is like any child who pushes and pushes until they can find the limits and boundaries you've established for their well-being. But often for adoptive parents, there is a question about how much of this behavior is related to their temperament and how much is a result of the adoption. This is emotionally trying for parents-- an in-road for depression.

This article also makes suggestions for how adoptive parents can cope better and off-set PADS. She recommends we don't overdo social interactions with family and friends so the nuclear family can bond and transition. Also, maintain special time alone with your spouse. And lastly, guard ourselves against unrealistic expectations and becoming impatient; "remember that bonding takes time."



Recommended reading: Post-Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption
by Karen Foli & John R. Thompson

10.11.2004

Finding A Homestudy Agency

Knowing that the homestudy is one of the first things to do, begin doing searches on the agencies which do international homestudies for Ukraine. The problem may be finding someone to do this service a part from engaging their adoption programif you are going "independent." Realize that some agencies may take longer until they can do your homestudy. Most of them say it will take 3 or 4 months but others may only take 3 weeks. And needless to say, some agencies charged a lot more than others and will have additional costs (travel time/cost per mile, $250 to work with the facilitator, etc).


IMPORTANT INFORMATION
A homestudy report for Ukraine must not be any longer than 7 pages. Make sure your social worker will be able to keep it between 5 and 7 pages, include notarized copy of the agency's license, the social worker's license, and a statement of employment for the social worker. Also, get 3 notarized copies of your homestudy report!

The social worker must include the following statements in the Homestudy report:
- "The adoptive parents have never had a court-appointed guardian."
- "The adoptive parents have never had their parental rights terminated in a court of law."
- " Minor children are the first to inherit if both parents die at the same time."
- "Adopted children have the same inheritance rights as biological children and will have the same civil rights as any American-born child."

Additional note: the homestudy report must make the exact same statement as in your Petition to Adopt.
Example--
"...We desire to adopt # healthy fe/male child(ren) between the ages of __ and ___ years old. We are willing to consider minor surgically or medically correctable issues. ..."

9.21.2004

Facilitator

It takes a lot of work to decide on a facilitator. Carefully learn everything possible about what a facilitator and translator should provide. Costs vary in extremes even for the same services. And in "interviewing" the facilitators, you certainly cannot know if they truly have a good reputation with the NAC, pyschologists, orphanage directors and judges. So inquire of the Consular at the U.S. Embassy in Kiev on specific individuals. All she will state is whether or not there have been any negative reports on the ones in question.
adoptionskiev@state.gov


9.13.2004

**Ukrainian Orphans

The more I learn about adopting from Ukraine, the more I learn about the orphans. Ukraine is one of the ten poorest countries in the world and that is often why there are so many family-less children and street kids. Many Ukrainian families struggle just to provide for themselves, but a single girl or woman who becomes pregnant is in an even tougher position. She places her child up for adoption. Statistics show that in some regions that after kids come out of the orphanage around 15 and 16 years of age, an average of 10% commit suicide; 60% of the girls go into prostitution; and 70% of the boys end up committing crimes.

Because the country is in financial straits, the orphanages are barely equiped to provide for all the orphans. Clothes and toys and other essentials are minimumal and not enough to meet all the needs, emotional and physical. There are thousands and thousands of children in these orphanges and not nearly enough workers to care for them . Not every baby can be held and fed; often the babies are kept in their cribs with the bottle propped up for them to drink from. No one is available to burp them or wipe their spit-up because the caretakers are overwhelmed with responsibilities. Young babies are taught to sit on potties for long periods of time simply because the orphanges do not have the funds to keep them in diapers very long. And the children are given only a small amount of fluids every day so they don't go through so many diapers. The orphanage homes are poorly maintained and are in need of new kitchen and laundry and bathroom appliances. They kids are bathe once a week and maybe it is in warm water. The children are usually wearing worn out clothes that are several sizes too small. And there are not enough coats for all of them to wear outside. Little feet are stuffed into any available shoes, whether or not they fit. And the result of wearing wrong sized shoes prevents the toddlers from learning how to walk on time. I've read of a toddler who was diagnosed as partially paralyzed but the adoptive parents realized she simply was so confined in her shoes that it was impossible for her to walk.

The conditions in orphanages further away from Kyiv are in the worst shape. Often the caretakers have to make the horrid decision of which children will get to eat each day because there simply is not enough food. And when the flu hits, it is not uncommon for children to get so sick that many die. These poor caretakers must grieve over their powerlessness to do more. Yet they do their best to care for these kids. Can any of us even imagine what a despairing and physically demanding job it is to work in an orphanage?!

Thankfully there are many missions and charities which go to Ukraine to help with improvements and donations. This is why adopting parents are implored to bring medicine, clothes etc. and then to specifically ask the orphange directors what kinds of things they need. Apparently things are available for purchase over there for very low prices, so it is hardly a burden to buy some necessities when you travel.

There is much insight into orphans' lives by reading about the mission programs that regularily travel over there. My heart breaks but the facts inspire my determination. I cannot wait until we find our little boy and we get to give him a new life. We will literally be giving him everything he has never had. When you bring your child home, it is not uncommon for them to hoard their food because they have a fear that they may not get more. And affection-- cuddling and tickling and play-wrestling-- has he ever been parented like that when there are several hundred kids in the same orphanage but a shortage of caretakers?! These children learn as infants that there is no point to cry. They are quiet and compliant because
there simply may not be anyone available to tend to a crying baby. ...I want my little boy to cry out for me so he can see me come running to him. Someone wil always be there for him from now on. He will not be just one kid in the midst of humdreds, now he will be one of my kids who are cherished above all the other kids in the world. Our family is for him. I want to love his heart back to health and be there beside him to overcome any challenges that result from life in an orphanage. He is just for us and we are just for him.

9.02.2004

TASK LIST & PROCESS

GENERAL OVERVIEW: complete all paperwork necessary for homestudy; submit form I-600A (with homestudy) to the USCIS and wait for approval to adopt; once approved, fill out form I-171H and get fingerprinted; have everything apostilled at the Secretary of State (at the capitol city of my state); send Dossier for translation and submission to National Adoption Center (NAC) in Kiev; wait for appointment date with NAC. Once Dossier is submitted, we will likely be traveling in about 6 months (late spring or summer '05). Time in Kiev should be no more than four weeks. Both of us must travel. Once we select our child, our court date should be in about a week to a week and a half. After the court hearing, Erik can fly back home and I will remain in Ukraine until the adoption is complete. When it is all complete, I will then return with our new little boy!

IMPORTANT: For all items to be notarized, call the government level Authentication Office and ask for state wording requirements for notaries and wording for non-originals. Also, make sure your notary's Expiration of Commision is at least one year from now.

*Scedule homestudy visit.
*Get Passports ( photocopy both on one page- notarized).
*Certified Birth Certificates
*Certified Marriage License (send to Sec. of State in the state it was issued to be apostilled--but keep a copy on hand).
*Schedule doctor appointment for lab tests first.
*Schedule 30 minute doc. appt. for medical form to be notarized and vaccinations. (1 1/2 weeks after blood tests)
*Find and secure a traveling notary for doc. appt. (Doctor must specifically state: "found to be in good physical health. I find him/her to be generally healthy, free from contagious diseases and exhibiting no signs of drug or alcohol abuse. ... is free from syphilis, TB, HIV/AIDS, and blood examinations were all normal. ...is expected to have a normal life expectancy."
*Notarized copy of doc's license.
*Statement of Employment- notarized- on company letterhead stating how long employed, salary, and employee is in good standing.

*Statement of decision to be a stay-at-home mother (if applicable) and to rely comfortably on husband's income.
*Four reference letters from friends and/or co-workers, but not from family members. Have them mail directly to
social worker.
*State-wide police clearance- on state letterhead, notarized. Must state: "no criminal record."
*Gather W-2's, home insurance policy, life insurance policies, bank statements, pay stubs, and recent credit card,
mortgage, and car statements.
*Open FedEx acount
www.fedex.com
*Download immigration form I-600A form.
http://uscis.gov/graphics/formsfee/forms/i-600a.htm

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After homestudy:
*Submit form I-600A, wait for approval, fingerprinting appointment and form I-171H to be sent.
*Be sure to have agency's and social worker's license copied and notarized. Also need Employment Letter for social
worker. Make sure licenses do not expire for at least one year.
*Prepare the following: Petition to Adopt Letter, Letter of Obligation-- each notarized.
*Apply for Ukrainian double-entry visas
www.ukraininfo.us/consular/visas.html (Include prepaid Fed-EX envelope and notarized copy of passports).
*Get Power of Attorney for our facilitator and for each other.
*Go to Secretary of State and have entire Dossier apostilled.
*Send Dossier to facilitator to have translated and then sent to Ukraine.